080 | What Doesn’t Kill You
If you’re anything like me—which I’m guessing you are because you’re here on the Trauma Hiders Club—you likely have experienced one or more of the following phrases that could be harmful to people who experienced trauma:
“Time heals all wounds!”
“I’ve been there, too.”
“Everything happens for a reason,” or, perhaps the bestseller,
“What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger!”
In this episode, I discuss why these phrases, though sometimes said with good intentions, aren’t helpful and can even be harmful to people who experienced trauma. I also share what you can do when faced with people who are committed to misunderstanding you.
“Trauma does NOT make you stronger—it causes dysregulation. Only if we do a lot of work do we go through on the other side. The trauma doesn’t do that, WE do. We get stronger because we do the work.” - Karen Goldfinger Baker
This week on the Trauma Hiders Club Podcast:
● Phrases that can be harmful to survivors of trauma
● Why time doesn’t heal all wounds
● Facing people who are committed to misunderstanding you