007 | Know That You Are Not Your Trauma
Repeat after me: Trauma happened to me. I am not my trauma.
As a trauma survivor, you’re likely to blend what happened to you with your identity. You might think“I’m filthy” or “I’m damaged, broken.” I know this because these are words I’ve thought to myself. I have spent the majority of my life blaming myself for my childhood trauma; telling myself that I can’t trust myself or other people. And it wasn’t until I did the work that I realized I didn’t choose what happened to me...the same way you didn’t choose what happened to you. You are not your trauma, and it certainly doesn’t define you. And it’s in this space where we’ll work together towards freedom and love because you’re worth it. You deserve it.
In this episode, I reveal the third rule of the Trauma Hiders Club: you are not your trauma. I share an example to help you reframe your thinking around trauma. I discuss how I’ve lived a vast majority of my life believing that I am damaged and blaming myself for my trauma. I also highlight the hope of finding freedom from trauma and underscore that you are worthy and deserving of love.
“Trauma doesn’t define you; it’s a thing that happened to you.”
- Karen Goldfinger Baker
This week on the Trauma Hiders Club Podcast:
The car crash scenario and the third rule of Trauma Hiders Club
How we blame ourselves for the trauma we experience
Spending my life thinking that I’m damaged
Realizing that I didn’t choose to experience the trauma that happened to me
Digging deeper and working towards freedom and love